Women with Work Issues: Fairytale Retellings for the Millennial

Author’s Note: While I write both young adult and adult fantasy, this post will focus on my adult fantasy. Also, I am using the term “women” here to encompass a general target audience in publishing (and to make a snazzy title) but don’t intend this term to be narrowly construed and will use gender neutral language throughout.


My college writing program was highly competitive and well-known. Our school of journalism was equally so. As a consequence, sometime during the fall semester of my sophomore year, I found myself at a Starbucks, sitting across from a 4’11”, journalism major from New York who’d emailed me out of the blue requesting an interview with me for a story she was writing about the creative writing program.

I had no idea this petite girl with a less than petite attitude would become one of my closest friends and future roommate. Honestly, I thought we might not ever see one another again because most of the time we spoke she never took notes, so I assumed she didn’t find me particularly interesting. But when I told her I “used to” write fantasy, she pushed her chai tea to one side and picked up her pen. Apparently that was more interesting than anything else I’d said about the writing program, how it worked, or lit fic.

“Why fantasy?”

It was a question that has followed me ever since. My answer hasn’t really changed, though, even if it has probably become more nuanced.

What I told her then was fantasy gave me a way to address things that mattered to me in a way that didn’t seem so on the nose, something I was constantly getting scolded for in my writing classes when it came to my lit fic. “This isn’t a morality tale, Aimee.” Was a not infrequent comment on my short stories. At the time, I hadn’t learned the subtlety needed to nudge in a real world setting.

Possibly because I’d spent my entire life reading fantasy. Possibly because I sort of hated writing lit fic.

But fantasy gave me that outlet and let me make it as bold as I wanted, because with fantasy the reader is steps removed from the real world. They can disconnect when their ideas are being challenged and come back later. It’s a softer way to influence. A more fun way, too.

What I would add now is that issues can also be targeted and isolated in fantasy. You are the builder of your world. You can throw out some things from our world to focus in on others. (That bit admittedly took me much longer to figure out and is always going to be a work in progress).

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I’ve written before about fairytale retellings and why it’s important we market them to adults and shelve them as fantasy. But while I was in Boston for work last week, I was (naturally) asked about my books, and why I write fairytales for adults.

What a question. A good one. More complicated than you’d think.

It took me back to college. To that question about why fantasy. But also to a comparative literature class I took about fairytales and how they affected the socialization of children across the years. Spoiler: Walt Disney was pretty sexist, and racist, and all the isms, really.

Yet, fairytales have a structure that appeals to me as a neurodiverse individual. Plus, their goal is the same goal I seek in writing, well, anything: Influence. They are quite literally morality tales.

Children aren’t the only ones who need morality, though. Adults do, too. But it’s different. Like the adult life, it’s messier, grayer, more complicated. So what do I do with that? Well, I take the structure of a fairytale and I bend it, twist it. As my Pitch Wars mentor would say, I often fracture it.

After all, it’s only when something has been broken that it can be put back together.

Book in German with script and men on horses on right page with robin's nest on left page lies on pile of dried flowers.
My tales are more than once upon a times and happily ever afters, but strip them down and all the elements of a typical fairytale still remain.

Main Components of a Fairytale

Characters

There are three main types of characters in fairytales: goodies, baddies, and allies. The main character “goodie” is typically young, poor, unhappy, and “pure.” They’re likeable. The one you’re rooting for. The Disney Princesses. The baddie is usually the direct opposite of the goodie. They’re often old, rich, miserable, and “evil.” Often, they’ve stolen from the goodie and intend to keep that just how it is, thanks. The wicked stepmothers and vain witches. Then there’s the allies. The allies are across the board in fairytales. Sometimes they’re animals, sometimes they’re friends, sometimes they’re love interests. Dwarves, princes, helpful mice, a well-placed good witch. The baddies have allies too. Flying monkeys come immediately to mind.

You know what I’m on about, right? There are really neat formulas here. We as readers like the goodies and dislike the baddies. There’s not much gray area, so down the yellow brick road we go.

I mean, unless you’re reading one of my fairytales. Then you might not actually know who’s a goodie or a baddie and the traditional roles might not be what you expect. Because that’s life, right? Sometimes we don’t know who to trust and… oh, I’m spelling out my moral again. Guess you’ll have to read the books someday!

Magic

Fairytales have loads of magic. Not only magic systems with evil (and good) witches but also magic numbers (3 and 7 are big ones). And, of course, magical creatures. This puts fairytales in the fantasy genre.

My magic systems are often based on morality concepts I want to explore. What is selfishness? What is really selfless? What happens when the goodie wants to be a baddie? And what makes a baddie a baddie, anyway? They also often deal with power. Who has it, who wants it, and what it takes to get it.

Obstacles or Tasks

The basic structure of a fairytale requires the goodie to overcome tasks or obstacles that often feel or seem insurmountable to reach their happily ever after. Usually they need magic and allies to accomplish these tasks plus one of their handy and winning traits that makes us love them, like courage or cleverness.

Most stories have obstacles or tasks, if we’re being honest. My fairytales are no different. The tasks are just more adult than in a traditional fairytale. Because they’re for adults! Don’t fall in love with this guy even though he’s sexy. Do this job even though you hate it. Kill this dude so you can reclaim your position. You know, normal life stuff.

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Happily Ever After

Most fairytales have a happily ever after BUT NOT ALL. Especially in older tales, this was not as much of a genre convention as it came to be. Depending on your definition of happily ever after, you might see this differently, too. If you’re like my partner and have a taste for dark justice, you might see the version of Snow White where the wicked queen is made to dance wearing red-hot iron shoes until she dies as a suitably happy ending. But probably few see The Little Mermaid telling where the prince marries someone else and the Little Mermaid throws herself into the sea, turning into foam as an HEA.

Today’s fairytales, however, do typically require a happily ever after. Mine have them, but they’re never what you expect. #LitFicTaughtMeThat

The Moral Lesson

This is probably the biggest concept in a fairytale, and the reason I love them as a medium for retelling. Fairytales teach the morals of the time period in which they’re told. It’s why they’re told and retold again and again. It’s why we don’t tell the version of Snow White with the dancing on hot iron shoes, or the version of Sleeping Beauty where she isn’t woken by a chaste kiss but by the kicking of her babies because–surprise!–she’s been sexually assaulted in her sleep. It’s why the new live versions of Disney feature a Princess Jasmine who wants to be a Sultan, and a Black Little Mermaid. It’s why our new fairytales expand to a Queen who loves her sister and is ultimately rescued by her, not a prince; a Polynesian “Daughter of a Chief who isn’t a Princess;” a demi god who self-corrects he’s a hero of men, no women, no all; a Colombian family who is magical but traumatized; and a Mexican boy who wants to chase his dream of playing music.

My tales have moral lessons, too. For the millennial primarily. Things we didn’t get in our versions of Disney. But also things that are important to us now, as adults navigating a world that, in many ways, is different than the one we were prepared for.

I joke that my brand of adult fantasy is “fairytale retellings for women with work issues” because I primarily write retellings centered on women who have some kind of issue with work. All Her Wishes is about a fairy godmother who hates her job. My current retelling is a genderbent Beauty & the Beast about a sorceress who is pissed about a promotion gone all sorts of sideways.

At their hearts, though, my books aren’t really only about work, or even mostly about work. They’re about finding your power and your place in the world. My books have morals, but not the ones I grew up with. Ones I’ve learned along the way. And the thing is, while it might be children are easier to influence, they’re not the only ones who need influencing.

I guess in the end, I ignored those comments about morality tales.

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Confessions of a Late Blooming Bisexual

Authors Note: So first of all, my font on the backend seems to have changed. I have no idea if this will change things how you see them, but apologies if it makes it harder to read for anyone who has any reading challenges. Please let me know if that’s the case and I’ll try to fix it!

ANYWAY! HAPPY PRIDE Y’ALL! This post has been brewing a bit, and it’s moderately tempered because I am An Old. Therefore, it doesn’t speak for everyone (obviously) but it’s occurred to me recently there’s this history between Boomers and Gen Z and it’s… mine? But it’s not only the Millennial history it’s currently being played out in small towns and places that are not the internet all over America right now, so this Pride that’s what I wanted to talk about, I guess.

Trigger/Content Warnings: Discussion of homophobia, gaslighting, religious persecution, bigotry, domestic and sexual assault, and trauma.


I came out as bisexual when I was 34 years old. On Twitter. Sort of.

Tweet from June 1, 2022 which reads: Many of my characters are canonically bisexual without it ever being said on the page because that's how I've lived my life. Being canonically bisexual without ever saying it out loud. Until now, I guess.

That's it. That's the tweet. Happy Pride, y'all.
That’s the tweet. But it’s not the whole story.

Some of my closest friends (many of whom are bisexual as well) knew for awhile. My partner knew. My therapist and I had talked about it, but it was shut down for Reasons I’ll talk about in a minute. I didn’t come out to my family, although I’m sure some saw that tweet. We never talk about it. We probably won’t ever talk about it. To them, it probably doesn’t matter as I ended up with a man, so I look straight and appearance is everything. If my dad knew, he’d disown me. Though he’s an atheist, his Christian roots and hatreds run deep. The rest of my family is deeply religious. Appalachian coal country, Trump loving, right wing, bible thumping religious. IFYKYK.

I’ve struggled with my sexuality since high school, but I never talked about it. The one time I got brave drunk enough to mention it to a friend, I was promptly told not to worry, everyone dreamed about other girls every once in awhile. It was fine. I wasn’t a lesbian.

I grew up in the suburbs of Philadelphia. It’s a purple area. Fiscally conservative, socially liberal. Not restrictive in the ways my parents who’d grown up in western Pennsylvania deep in church culture understand restrictive. Still, I didn’t know a bisexual until college. Not an out one anyway. I had gay and lesbian friends. I had friends who came out as one or the other. No trans friends. That was it. Gay or lesbian. I graduated high school in 2006. Which I guess might sound ancient but isn’t really.

In college, I hooked up with more girls than guys. No one batted an eye. Everyone did wild shit in college. It was “for the guys.” For their pleasure. So they could watch. I’m not shitting you. Nor am I endorsing this behavior, I’m simply explaining why everything got all confused in my head. Never mind I hooked up with plenty of girls when dudes weren’t present but okay I guess? My friends all said the same thing. Don’t worry, I wasn’t a lesbian. I was just drunk. Wild. Free. Everyone did it.

Everyone did seem to do it. Not everyone seemed to think about it the same way I did, though. To get jealous when the girl’s boyfriend came to take her away. To wish he would disappear. To watch them, fantasizing about being anywhere but there, hoping she’d pick me instead of him. But it was fine. I had a boyfriend, too. I was normal. Yeah, he beat the shit out of me, and insisted I do weird things I didn’t like, and paraded me around like a trophy, and told me I earned him “points” in the frat house because they could see my ribs and vertebrae in my bikini which was so hot, and fed me drugs to keep me thin. And yeah, his frat brothers cornered me and tried to do things with me I didn’t like, and yeah, I had bruises around my neck, and yeah, I had to do more drugs to cope with it all, but that was normal.

To me, it was. This was the life I’d watched. It was the family I’d grown up in. Still, I didn’t know any bisexuals.

Until I did.

Image of a heart wit the bisexual flag colors: pink, purple, blue. 
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For anonymity, I won’t use her real name. Let’s call her Jessi. A girlfriend of another frat brother. Fuck, she tore my world apart. Dominican, with these hips for days and this beautiful, golden brown skin that reminded me of the sand when the ocean kisses it. She had this amazing, thick, curly black hair that I wanted to sink my fingers into, and this smile that made shy, awkward me feel welcome. I loved being around her. She was gregarious, laughing loud and easy. Smart, sophisticated, calm. Most of all, she understood me without me ever saying a word. There were times we’d all be hanging out and she’d look at me and her smile would shift into something sad, and I knew she hurt for me. That she saw things others didn’t. She saw the pain I hid.

When my boyfriend told me Jessi liked me and he was okay with us “trying things” I did the absolute most obvious thing a damaged girl like me could do.

I stopped talking to her.

It wasn’t about Jessi. It was about him. He was grooming me for something I didn’t want, which I’m sure you’re all smart enough to put together. Because that’s what everyone thinks about bisexuals, right? But I didn’t want that. I didn’t want him. I wanted her. But I wouldn’t have been “allowed” to have only her. So I said I didn’t “swing that way” and I stopped talking to her. Even when tragedy struck and her boyfriend was hurt in a terrible accident and everyone begged me to call her because she was crying for me. I swallowed another pill and shut my phone off. I had class. I was busy.

Busy being an asshole. Busy breaking my heart.

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I regret not telling her the truth. Being too cowardly to find out if she was in the same position. I regret never asking if those smiles ripping through my pain were because she was trapped, too.

I hate that I ran. From her. From me.

Over the years, my friend group expanded to include more members of the LGBTQ+ community. My friends came out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, demi, aro, ace, transgender, genderfluid. I learned new names, new pronouns, new ways to conceptualize how love and sexuality worked. Mistakes were made. A lot of them. Shitty things were said and graciously forgiven. (Spoiler: Still happens). The world got brighter, bigger, bolder.

I cheered with my coworkers as we gathered around computers to watch SCOTUS overturn the Defense of Marriage Act, making marriage equality real for everyone, including our colleague who once swore she’d never marry her partner, now wife. We watched a generation sprout beneath us whose parents made them rainbow cakes for coming out parties, then where coming out didn’t even seem necessary. In some places, anyway.

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We also saw shootings at LGBTQ+ nightclubs. Grieved when our friends in religious communities didn’t get rainbow cakes and coming out parties but were ostracized and disowned. I worked on paperwork to help that colleague legally adopt her own children because you never know and there were cases popping up all over the states where atrocious things were happening to tear LGBTQ+ families apart using means so manipulative if I put them in a book they’d be called unbelievable. Then, they’d ban the book. We went to Pride events and protests. We threw glitter while our friends took bullets. Change came in spits and starts, in two steps forward and back. It still does. I think it always will.

All this time, I hid from myself. My friends. Not my community. An ally. Not a member.

Alcohol was one shield. Drunk girl at the bar hooking up with another girl was still nothing to see here. I was wild. A partier. “Just like that.”

When I got sober, things changed. My touch aversion returned with the ferocity of a dragon. I couldn’t even touch my dog without getting nauseous. I confessed to my therapist I thought I might be asexual, and quite possibly bisexual.

Trauma, she said.

Another shield. It was fine. All I had to do was fix the trauma, and I would be normal. I would be a straight, cis, white girl with all the potential the world had to offer laid at my feet. If I worked hard enough, eventually I’d find the brain lost in childhood, and it wouldn’t be another thing I had to be afraid of. I wouldn’t have to run from myself anymore.

It’s an ugly thing, to be ashamed of yourself. That’s why Pride is so important. Why we call it Pride. It took me a long time to realize that. Some days I’m still realizing it.

The symbol for the LGBTQ+ community is a rainbow. Under it are so many beautiful, colorful stories begging to be heard. But so many of them aren’t neat. Or clean. They don’t start with rainbow cakes and glitter. Too many don’t even end that way. Out isn’t as solid as it sounds. It can be nebulous and shifting. It’s still not safe.

Rainbow smoke.
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Our history isn’t perfect or pretty, but it’s something to be proud of. That it was ugly and horrible, and we got up and kept fighting anyway. That we still do. My history isn’t perfect or pretty, and in it are things I’m not proud of. There’s shame I carry, not about myself and who I am, not anymore, but about how I hid from who I was and still do. About how long it took me to get into the fight.

It’s shame I want to shed. To acknowledge and release. In our beautiful, colorful, bold, proud, community there are so many stories that aren’t neat with so many reasons not to be. There’s enough shame without us taking on or giving more.

I am enough. You are enough. We are enough.

Doing enough. Being enough. Giving enough. Loving enough.

So on this Pride, I want you all to BE proud. Of who you are and what you’ve done. Whether you’re leading a campaign in Washington DC or a Pride event in Portland. Whether you’re hiding in a closet (metaphorically or literally) in Kentucky and simply surviving. If you’re still trying to figure out where under the flag you fit. If your sexuality might have been informed by trauma or you were born knowing exactly who are you, screaming it to the world. If you’re testing your pronouns. If you have a toe out or do drag. I want you to be proud of your life. Of your breath. Of your beauty.

You are the rainbow. And I’m so glad you’re here.

Happy Pride, y’all!

Rainbow.
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